A few nights ago I was watching Whose Line?, and apparently the channel that it is on turns into the Christian late night talk show channel. I might have fallen asleep during the transition... Anyways, I think the dude is Pat Robertson, or something along those lines. He was taking viewer questions and a lady (professing believer) said that she had an affair with her husbands brother or friend or someone that he knew, and that she felt really bad - could God forgive her? I don't remember exactly but it seems to me that her husband was a professing believer as well. The host of the show said of course God can forgive her, as far as the east is from the west, etc. But he also said not to confess to her husband, because that would just lead to worse things "he would just want to kill his friend, wouldnt trust you anymore, etc, etc." He went on to say that this type of thing in general is better left unsaid to people, just confessed to God.
While I think that there are many instances in which sin confession can be generic or isn't edifying to everyone, this situation struck me as being way off mark. Why couldn't the couple use this instance to grow stronger together in Christ, practicing confession, repentance, and forgiveness? I'm not saying it would be easy. The dude in this instance, if he is a believer has the responsibility to continue to love his wife and forgive her.
I'd love to hear your thoughts.